Why I Haven't Given Up On Love
By Cousin Kim
"Kissing my soul mate is like making love with your clothes on."
The people next to me completely stopped their conversation upon hearing my pronouncement. They laughed with me. I was in a workshop led by Kathryn Alice called "Calling in the One". Single men and women were gathered to learn important tools for attracting their soul mates.
The premise of the workshop was that everyone has a soul mate and everyone gets love. Love is God's desire for all of us. So the very desires in our hearts for love and partnership are proof that we have a soul mate. When I left the workshop, as reflected by my pronouncement, I truly understood this on a deep level.
"You need someone who adores you," my friend Bob said as we sat outdoors under an umbrella at the Howard Hughes Center in Los Angeles.
We'd just finished a hearty lunch at Kabuki and after taking a walk , we sat down for a heart to heart talk.
In response to one of his earlier statements, I'd asked him what kind of man he thought I should be with.
He indicated that I needed a man who could lead, but didn't mind following; who was about six feet tall, smart, stylish and not as wild as he. According to Bob I couldn't handle a wild man and needed someone quieter. Then we talked about our visions of what our weddings would be like.Bob is one of the reasons I haven't given up on love. He appreciates my talents, intellect, and sees my outer and inner beauty. We both also know each other well enough to know that we aren't a good fit romantically. Bob reflects some of the qualities that I ultimately desire in my soul mate.
Recently, on a lunch date, a new male acquaintance asked me if I was a scorned woman. I knew that this was his way of discerning whether I was a card-carrying member of the "Bitter Black Woman's Club." I felt a great deal of peace when I could honestly respond, "No, I'm not a scorned woman. I am a grateful woman."
I am grateful for all the men I've dated in my life because every one of them has demonstrated a quality that I desire in my soul mate. Each of them has shown me things about myself that I might not have seen on my own. Each of them has given me an opportunity to share the love in my heart.According to the Law of Attraction, seeing the qualities that I desire in a mate demonstrated through these wonderful men is evidence that my desire for a soul mate is in the process of manifestation.
At forty I am single, I don't hate men, I'm not bitter, I've never married, and I have no children. My biological clock is not ticking, I am not afraid, and my eggs are not dried up. I have not given up on sharing my life with a soul mate who adores me. I know that the desires of my heart were placed there for a reason--to be fulfilled. Love is eternal, like God.
And I get love because I AM love.
And so it is.